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Tapu Misa: Tsunami may open the door to change
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Tavita Tusitala
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« on: November 18, 2009, 03:57:22 PM »
Tapu Misa: Tsunami may open the door to change

Our so-called leaders often fall disappointingly short of the mark. But last week at a Families Commission conference to talk about the state of Pacific Island families, Samoa's head of state, Tui Atua Tupua Tamasese Tai'isi Efi, offered an example of leadership that gave me hope.

Tui Atua's perfectly pitched speech on the challenges facing Pacific families, and his message - that it's time we re-examined some of the cultural practices which impose such a heavy burden on families - wasn't a new call.

Many of us have been saying the same thing for years, though nowhere near as eloquently.

What makes this so significant is that this time it comes from an elder statesman and scholar who is regarded as something of a cultural guardian.

For Tui Atua, a former Samoan prime minister, the tsunami that caused so much death and destruction has also provided an opportunity "for a reappraisal of family and societal values and a cleansing, if you like, of that which, in the light of so much pain and grief, became peripheral, nonsensical, vain and excessive".

Such is the case with Samoan funerals, which have become "very expensive and stressful, with some families getting into debt financially, mentally and spiritually by the end of it".

Indeed, "the social stigma of losing face if family resources are found wanting is so great that family heads are willing to do almost anything to avoid it, including creating inter-generational debt".

The tsunami may have opened the door to change. By necessity, funerals for the tsunami victims were very simple affairs.

"The paraphernalia that we have become accustomed to seeing at a Samoan funeral, especially one held in the villages, was so scaled down that one could not help but ask: how much of it do we really need? Will our funerals and their cultural imperatives lose meaning and substance if we gave to the grieving and demanded nothing or only accepted the bare minimum in return? Would the dignity of the deceased and his or her family be undermined by simple but true gestures of reciprocity?

"The seeming ordinariness of the tsunami funerals, with the minimum fuss and bother that surrounded them, did not, however, lose any face by their simplicity. Instead, they gained in that they reminded us of what really mattered."

The tsunami chastened and cleansed, said Tui Atua. It was an invitation to reassess, and make anew. "We might say that it forced us to front up to our vanities and cupidity, violently shaking and unmasking us of the facade and exploitations that befall status at funerals and making profane anything other than what is fundamental to the act of celebrating life and providing relief from sorrow and pain.
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